Intimacy is friendship at its deepest level, the profound comfort that comes from complete trust between two human beings. It means being loved unconditionally, as is, for our spiritual selves rather than as a package with decorative trimmings and marks of status. And it means loving back the same way.
We learn about intimacy from our families of origin. Many of us, however, didn’t have very good role models, so intimacy eludes us.
But all is not lost. Working the Twelves Steps in a Twelves Step fellowship makes us honest. Then when someone loves us, they loves us. We are being who we really are (as best we know)and in so being we offer ourselves to another. It doesn’t mean we won’t get hurt if the feelings aren’t mutual, but at least we’re spared the effort of trying to be what we’re not or living in fear that we’ll be found out. On the other hand, if the feelings are mutual, what great joy to finally be with a friend and be who we really are .
Today help me find the courage to be as honest as I can be in all that I do.
from Body, Mind and Spirit daily meditation